Three Times The Love: How Being A Mom Has Made Me Better

When my children’s birthdays come around, I experience rebirth. In the midst of another rebirth experience with Freedom’s birthday approaching on the same day as my book launch, July 11th, I can’t help but reflect on how much motherhood has shaped me and brought me closer to being my authentic self. As I was answering questions for interviews this weekend regarding my book launch, I did some reflecting. One of those questions (paraphrased) was how am I different now that I’m a mother, wife, and author than before these accomplishments. I remembered how when I first found out that I was pregnant with Jarvis Jr. and I felt a bit discouraged because I felt like my life was over as I knew it. I was 22 at the time so I felt like I had a lot of more life to live and experience before having children. Truth is, my old life did end; but a new life began. This new life has challenged me to be better in many ways. Some of that being I’m more patient, selfless, and understanding. I’m more aware of my shortcomings too because I have three little teachers that mirror back to me the lessons that I need to learn and master. I also have more drive and ambition to create a legacy for my family. When I started my motherhood journey I also worried if I’d be able to accomplish as much as I did before having kids. Before Jarvis Jr. I was active in the community, active in school, and worked more than one job at a time. I was always busy, on the move, and making things happen. Since giving birth to my three angels, I am more mindful of how I spend my time and make moves based on my purpose instead of for the sake of being busy. Having children has made me stronger too and since I have three, I would say they’ve made me 3x the woman I once was with three times the love to give. Funny that 6 years ago I questioned if my life was “over.” Now I feel that my life is really just getting started.

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